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"If there were no schools to take the children away from home part of the time, the insane asylums would be filled with mothers."

E. W. Howe


If there is one thing we all encounter in life, it is a bully. School bullying is one of the most common types of bullying. School bullying can be physical, emotional or verbal. Being bullied can make someone feel hurt, scared, alone, embarrassed and sad. Victims are never alone, and bystanders are never innocent. Don't keep a situation a secret. If you or someone you know is getting bullied, tell someone. The more people who know, the more likely you are to receive successful help.

What is bullying?
Bullying is repetitive unwanted negative attention, in order to receive a sense of power.

What is a bully?
An individual who is driven by the need to feel powerful and gains power by giving unwanted negative attention.

Why do bullies bully?
  • To avoid facing up to their inadequacy and doing something about it.
  • To avoid accepting responsibility for their behavior and the effect it has on others.
  • To reduce their fear of being seen for as they see themselves.
  • To divert attention away from their inadequacy.

Types of bullying:

  • Physical Bullying; It occurs when kids use physical actions to gain power and control over their targets. Damage to or taking someone else’s belongings may also constitute as physical bullying.
  • Verbal Bullying: Perpetrators of verbal bullying use words, statements and name-calling to gain power and control over a target.
  • Relational Aggression A teen or tween on the receiving end of relational aggression is likely to be teased, insulted, ignored, excluded and intimidated. such as spreading nasty stories about someone, exclusion from social groups, being made the subject of malicious rumors, sending abusive mail, and email and text messages.
  • Prejudicial Bullying Prejudicial bullying is based on prejudices tweens and teens have toward people of different races, religions or sexual orientation.
  • Cyber Bullying (see cyber bullying).

And the numbers continue to rise:

  • 1 in 7
    Students in Grades K-12 is either a bully or a victim of bullying.
  • 56%
    of students have personally witnessed some type of bullying at school.
  • 71%
    of students report incidents of bullying as a problem at their school.
  • American schools harbor approximately 2.1 million bullies and 2.7 million of their victims.
  • Harassment and bullying have been linked to
    of school-shooting incidents.
  • 90%
    of 4th through 8th graders report being victims of bullying.
  • 50%
    of bullying situations stop when peers intervene.

How to handle a bully:

  1. Seek help; if you or a peer is encountering a bully tell someone you trust. Tell a friend, or a trusted adult. The more people who are aware of the situation, the more likely it is that the situation will be addressed and resolved
  2. Form an alliance; find peers who can support you in standing up for yourself.
  3. Develop assertive skills.
  4. Walk away, avoid, and ignore the bully.
  5. Use humor to defuse a bully who may be about to attack.
  6. Never show fear before the bully.